Monday, July 27, 2015

Musical Mondays- Mumford & Sons "The Cave"

I've been in a rut.  I'm betting some of you noticed this, due to the recent lack of posts.  Work has been slow, but instead of meaning I have more energy, I feel like I have less.  I got into a path of negative thinking where I feel like I'm wasting my time with my job, and it's not meaningful, and I'm feeling unfulfilled intellectually and even unfulfilled in my spirit.  When really, I should have been thankful that I had more time to plan stuff around home and use the down time at work to finish some work projects.  Instead, I just kind of ground to a stop.

But this past Wednesday, something happened.  One of my best friends was attacked.  Some guy with a knife came up behind here while she was walking that evening and threw her to the ground and intended to rape her, but she fought him off, got his knife away from him and ran home.  The cops caught the guy, because he also had dropped his cell phone in the scuffle.  My friend seems to be doing pretty well besides a little cut on her face, and a bad case of poison ivy from wrestling this guy in the ditch.

It just makes you think, how much worse it could have been, how sucky it is that a woman can't walk alone after dark, and how much you can hate someone without ever meeting them.  I'm not naive, I understand rape happens, but in my twisted logic head it's at parties were people are drunk, or on blind dates, or Law and Order:SVU.  Not in my little tiny town, and certainly not to someone as sweet as my friend.  I was angry for a couple days, and I'm still worried for my friend, but then my attitude kind of changed.

After grilling my husband (who used to be a cop) about the best methods for disarming someone who is attacking you (sense I too walk alone, most days on my supper break), I kind of realized I can't control what happens.  You never know who you're going to cross paths with and what their intentions are.  And sense hating this pervert who attacked my friend- which really does nothing to him, and just makes me angry, all that all I can do is love the people around me better.  When one of my coworkers ask me to do something that they are perfectly capable of doing themselves, I can do it with a smile.  I can offer help to others without being asked, build others up, give compliments and thanks, and try to think of ways to make others' burdens lighter.  No one likes a Debbie Downer.  And to be honest, when I'm down, I'm 100% down, but when I'm upbeat, I'm 100% upbeat.  I rarely have days that are so-so, I'm all in no matter what mood I'm in.  So, I need to consciously strive for happy.  And it's a proven fact that helping others is one of the best ways to make yourself happy.

Is being happy going to prevent anyone I love from being hurt?  No, but being down is not going to neither, so I might as well choose happy.  I might as well choose to help others.  To listen to their thoughts and try to carry their worries with them.  Nothing in life is certain, all I can control is my actions and emotions.

So, after all that, here's my song of the week:


I love the lines:
And I will hold on hope
And I won't let you choke
On the noose around your neck

And I'll find strength in pain
And I will change my ways
I'll know my name as it's called again 
I know it's easy to get self absorbed, and think only about what affects us.  But don't lose faith.  And remember to love each other. It's not always easy, and sometimes it's downright hard, but it is right.

And of course, head over to My So Called Chaos to link up and see what everyone else is listening to this week.

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Craftsy Summer Closeout Sale!

Guess what!  Craftsy is having a ginormous sale right now, through July 27. There's a ton of great kits and supplies available. Here's just a sampling of some of the sewing kits. You get the fabric and pattern for a price cheaper than you could get the fabric in some cases. 


I ordered a tote bag kit, and dress kit, and two yards of Cotton + Steel fabric, all at steep discounts.  There's lots of options for potential Christmas presents, or for selfish sewing.  For example, the Sewaholic Cambie dress kit is $26.  It comes with the pattern from Sewaholic and three yards of name brand fabric.  If I would have bought the pattern alone, it's $19.98 at Sewaholic's website.  So basically, I'm getting three yards of Dear Stella cotton poplin fabric for $6.  That's quite a deal.

If you're not a sewer, no worries, There are supplies and kits on sale for quilters, crocheters, knitters, painters, paper project workers, and even cake decorators.  You really have to check it out.

Craftsy

 I'm a Craftsy affiliate, but the saving are legit.  If you craft, I really recommend checking them out.  I love them, and I think you will too!

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Podcast Recommendations

Back in May I gave some of my podcast recommendations.  I still love podcasts and now have a few new recommendations to share.

Stuff You Should Know- This is a cousin to Stuff You Missed in History Class, both are from Stuff Network.  While I still prefer Stuff You Missed in History Class, I really do like Stuff You Should Know.  The hosts of SYSK are funny and witty and geeky all at the same time.  I think I might have a little bit of a fan girl crush on Josh.  This podcast always teaches me something new, even if the topic is something I think I know all about.  Favorite episode so far: What is a Numbers Station

Happier with Gretchen Rubin- Spoiler alert: I finished The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin this month.  But, before I read the book, I had stumbled across her podcast after she guested on an episode of The Accidental Creative.  Gretchen and her sister Elizabeth do this podcast together, and it's fun and lighthearted and full of practical tips that are easy to apply to every day life.  Favorite episode so far: Podcast #4: One-Sentence Journals, Marathoners vs. Sprinters, & Parking-Lot Snacks

Slow Your Home Podcast- This is an Australian podcast hosted by Brooke McAlary all about living a more minimalist lifestyle.  I love Brooke.  She's funny and encouraging, and makes me feel like I can live well with less stuff in my life.  Most episodes is her interviewing someone and it's just fun hearing how other minimalists live, why they chose a minimalist lifestyle, and what they're day to day life is like.  Favorite episode so far: Episode 5: Rhythm Baby

Monday, July 13, 2015

Musical Mondays- Don't Let Go from Swiss American Federation

So it's Monday and that means it's time to share some music with you all.  But first a little background.  I'm currently reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and in it she talks about her 12 Commandments and one of them is to lighten up.  She mentions how she loves kid fiction- like Madeline L'Engle or The Chronicles of Narnia, but she always felt embarrassed about it.  Then one day, she was talking to a friend and realized they shared a mutual love of Harry Potter so they decided to start an adult book club that only read kids books, and it was so much fun.

So today, I'm going to share something that I would normally not, because it's kind of childish, and doesn't fit the grown up "vibe" I aim for with my blog.  But, I liked it, and I'm embracing lightening up, and not focusing so much on what others think of me.  So here it is.

Cat videos people.  It's a cat video, with a great song.  Check it out.


I really liked the song playing in the background, so I found it online, and even though it looks like it's filmed in a karaoke bar, I included it in case you can't handle faux dog on cat/human violence. :)


So, this week, don't be afraid to be silly or light-hearted.  Not everything has to be a revelation. If you like something,you shouldn't have to apologize for it.  Just embrace it.  And be sure to head over to My So Called Chaos to check out the rest of the link up.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

Feeling Cranky?

I had a work meeting on Tuesday morning.  Tuesday was also my day off, so I resolved to go to the morning session at 7:30 and get it over and done with.  I got up and through on some decent clothes and headed in to work about six hours after I had gone to bed to the night before.  The meeting felt like a waste of time.  (They call them Monthly Staff Meeting- but it's really just a chance for the bosses to tell us what they're changing in the coming month.)  I left feeling tired and unheard.  That started my day in a funk that continued through.  Things that normally would have been a small inconvenience had me on the verge of tears and everything felt extremely frustrating. So I compiled a list of ways to beat that cranky feeling.  I did some of these, and some helped a little, but ultimately #10 did the trick.


  1. Take a walk.  If you're at work, go on your lunch or break, if you can't and you work in an office, hand deliver something to someone outside of your department.  If you're carrying an interdepartmental envelope, people tend to let you be.  There's plenty of times I need to get away, and I hand deliver something instead of emailing it, or go to the central supply area to get something instead of calling them to bring it up.  Walk.  It's good for your body and brain.
  2. Give yourself a treat.  This doesn't mean eat whatever you want, but if you can buy a small ice cream or a latte without feeling guilty- do it and savor it.  A little treat may be just what you need.  If you don't want to reward yourself with food, buy a new lip balm or a book or something to look forward to.
  3. Write it down.  Just dump the words on the page.  Why are you cranky?  What's at the root of the feelings.  No one else has to see what you wrote and if you're embarrassed by your words, you can always throw them away later.
  4. Pray about it.  A lot of times I think praying just helps me feel less stressed and that if someone is annoying me, it's not really that major in the grand scheme of things.
  5. Do something nice for someone.  Hold the door for someone, say hi to a stranger, make eye contact and smile.  If you're feeling really ambitious, you can try paying it forward by buying someone's lunch in line behind you, or leaving a big tip for a waitress.  It's hard to feel cranky when you're making a point to do nice things for others.
  6. Get outside.  Go to a park and sit and listen to the birds.  Or have a cup of coffee on your front steps.  Watch the moths and butterflies.  Pay attention to the squirrels.  Just enjoy some nature.
  7. Take a bath.  It doesn't matter if it's not bedtime- if you're at home, and have half an hour to spare, go soak in the tub.  Sylvia Plath said, "There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know many of them."  (Maybe she should have taken her own advice a little more often.)
  8.  Take a nap.  I find that this one usually helps a lot.  
  9. Organize.  Put that anger to good use.  I took all my food items out of the cupboard Tuesday and threw out anything that was expired, and reorganized the baking supplies, teas, coffees, and pantry.  I felt much better when it was done.
  10. Just go to bed.  Even if it's early.  Sometimes, the best thing you can do, is go to sleep and trust that you'll wake up feeling recharged and refreshed.

    What's your secret for getting over those feelings of annoyance and crankiness?

Sunday, July 5, 2015

July 2015 Reading List

So I didn't finish any of my June Reading books in June.  But, I did finish one in July.  And speaking of which, here's my other picks for July!

The Feast Nearby by Robin Mather is another food book.  I've been on a food book kick lately, reading Eat, Nourish, Glow and In Defense of Food last month, so I figured wny not make it a third.

Say You're One of Them by Uwem Akpan is a set of short stories that take place in Africa.  It sounds kind of gut wrenching, and it's not something I would normally read, but I think it's good to read things you normally wouldn't read every once in a while.

Wicked Appetite by Janet Evanovich was sent to me by Kenzie in my Favorite Color swap.  (Side note: my favorite color is yellow, want to see how she managed to send me a red book in a sea of yellow?  Check out the post.)  Anyhow, it's finally to give Janet Evanovich a try.  I've had about a bazillion people recommend her to me.

The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin was loaned to me by a friend.  I kept meaning to pick it up, but it wasn't until I heard Gretchen's podcast of the same name that I decided it was time to pull it off the shelf and give it a try.

So, that's what I'm planning on reading.  Any recommendations for the future?

Saturday, July 4, 2015

July Goals (and Recap of June)

Another month and more goals. But first, here's how I did in June:
  • Give up coffee creamer. This actually went pretty well.  I gave up creamer before I went on vacation to the U.P. so I think that helped. I drank my coffee with milk while on vacation, and then by the time I got home, I was ready to just drink it black.  I thought this was going to be way harder than it was. 
  • Walk every day for at least 15 minutes.  I didn't do this every day.  But, I really only missed a couple days and one was due to rain.  If I didn't get a walk in before work, I would go on my lunch break at work and listen to a podcast while I walked along.  In fact, the background picture for my July goals (seen before) was taken on one of these walks.  I've also been riding my bike a lot to run errands and to go to the park.  And, by only setting a time of 15 minutes, I find that I don't feel like I don't have time to get it done, and most of the time I end up going at least a half hour.  But, if I am pressed for time, 15 minutes still feels like success sense that's the requirement I set.
  • Blog at least three times a week.  Success!  Using a blogging calendar and setting time aside to plan has really made all the difference.  I plan on continuing that in July.
  • Continue to get up by 7:30 on weekdays.  Once again, there was a couple days where I slept in until 8.  But, for the most part, I've done really well.  And, I actually have cut back on naps too.  I think it's from cutting out a lot of sugar.  (I haven't bought anything but water from the vending machines at work for over a month- no pop, no candy, no chips.)

Now.  Here's what I have planned for July...


  • Write every day.  Specifically, using The Writer's Workbook for an exercise every day.
  • Eat breakfast in the park at least once a week.  I've gotten up a couple mornings, and biked to the park at the other side of town (remember: my town is small, this literally takes 15 minutes tops) and eat breakfast in the park, write, read, and just watch the geese.  There's usually no one else there, and it's so peaceful, and usually very productive.  It's just about making the time to do it.  
  • Sew three big projects.  I finished a commission last month, and am ready to get back to sewing for me.  I have a wedding to go to, a couple birthdays, and such coming up so I want to get some sewing done for them.  I have this tote bag kit from Craftsy that I want to make, and a few others in mind.
  • Continue to eat less sugar and be more conscientious about what I eat.  Lose five pounds by the end of the month.  I feel like I finally have a grip on diet and exercise and moderation.  I think good things are going to be happening!  :)
So what are you hoping to accomplish in July?  And want to see what everyone else is doing?  Check out the monthly link up hosted by My So Called Chaos and  A Peek at Karen's World.

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